Is My Relationship Emotionally Abusive?

I feel nervous, anxious, or worried about my partner's attitudes or moods.

I feel nervous, anxious, or worried about my partner's anger.

I feel nervous or intimidated by my partner's sarcasm, criticism, frowns, glares, or gestures (e.g., finger-pointing, making a fist, etc).

I feel anxious, nervous, or worried about my partner giving me the cold shoulder or tendency to stonewall me.

I edit my thoughts before I speak and/or second-guess my behavior for fear of the reaction I might provoke in my partner (either anger or the silent treatment).

I feel tense when I hear the door open or my partner comes in the room.

I feel like if I tried harder things would be ok, but I can't seem to figure out the right things to do or say.

My partner and I are in a "cold war" (i.e., we have few arguments, but there is a constant tension between us).

I can't help being defensive and reactive around my partner. It just happens automatically.

When I think about my relationship, my stomach feels upset or I feel muscle tension (unrelated to physical activity).