I get a lot of questions from men wondering how they can please their wives in the bedroom. A new study confirms my usual advice, “Make her feel loved outside of the bedroom.” That said, it turns out that feelings of love don’t just improve the psychological experience of sex. It also improves the physiological experience of sex.
Love and commitment can make sex physically more satisfying for many women, according to a Penn State Abington sociologist. In a series of interviews, heterosexual women between the ages of 20 and 68 and from a range of backgrounds said that they believed love was necessary for maximum satisfaction in both sexual relationships and marriage. The benefits of being in love with a sexual partner are more than just emotional. Most of the women in the study said that love made sex physically more pleasurable.
“Women said that they connected love with sex and that love actually enhanced the physical experience of sex,” said Beth Montemurro, associate professor of sociology.
Women who loved their sexual partners also said they felt less inhibited and more willing to explore their sexuality.
“When women feel love, they may feel greater sexual agency because they not only trust their partners but because they feel that it is OK to have sex when love is present,” Montemurro said. READ MORE
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