Quiz #4 – The Intimate Partnership

“Mutual self-donation” refers to the heroic generosity God asks couples to display in loving each other.

Mutual self-donation is the way husbands and wives say to each other, “You can count on me to use everything I have and everything I am to help you become the person God created you to be in this life and get to heaven in the next.”

Assuming that my spouse is not asking for something that is immoral or demeaning, I should do my best agree to their request, even when doing so requires me to grow or change.

In order for a marriage to be intimate, a couple must feel safe to express their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs to each other.

Flatly refusing to do something my spouse asked of me (assuming the request is not immoral or demeaning) sends the message, “You shouldn’t feel safe around me, because when push comes to shove, I will choose what makes me comfortable, over what you need to feel loved.”

Only when we stop clinging to what makes us comfortable can we discover what we need to be fulfilled.