“Maternal hostility” may predict whether one mistreats their adult romantic partners

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“Maternal hostility” may predict whether one mistreats their adult romantic partners

RITE OF CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIPS
-Practices 2, 3, and 4
-(2. Extravagant affection, 3. Prompt, consistent, generous and cheerful response to needs, 4. Discipleship Discipline)

I’m not posting this to freak anyone out, to shame anyone who is struggling with anger from time-to-time (every parent has a bad day once in a while), or even to single-out moms (because this finding applies to dads too).

I am posting this to underscore the assertion of the Rite of Christian Relationships that the way we treat each other in the home directly relates to our kids’ ability Christ’s love in their adult relationships. We cannot effectively raise kids to live their faith if we are not raising them in a warm, loving, generous environment.

Family spirituality is not just about family prayer. The warmth we foster in our homes through practices like extravagant affection, prompt, generous, consistent, and cheerful attention to needs, and gentle, Discipleship Discipline represent a catechism in sharing Christ’s love.

Kids can be frustrating. And it’s ok to feel frustrated. But before you act on that feeling, take a breath. Ask God to help you be as patient with your kids as he is with you. Then, call your kids over. Give them a hug. ONLY THEN should you offer whatever correction or redirection you need to offer gently and clearly.

Doing this won’t just make you a better parent. It will help you experience incredible grace as you invite Christ into the most frustrating moments of your day and consecrate them to him so that he can love you through them.

What have you done to show your kids you love them today (even if they were being obnoxious)? Tell us about it in the comments below and join the conversation on Facebook at Catholic HŌM Family Discipleship