Playing for Glory: How Theology of the Body Transforms the Way Athletes Compete

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For athletes, the body isn’t just a tool — it’s the means through which we experience challenge, growth, and joy. But for many, the world of sports can become a place of striving, comparison, and pressure to perform.
The Theology of the Body invites us to see something far deeper: that our bodies — our strength, our discipline, our drive — are not just for competition, but for communion.

St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body reminds us that the human person is a unity of body and soul, created to reveal God’s love through self-giving. That means every practice, every game, every sprint or swing or shot is an opportunity to glorify God not just through what we do, but how we do it.

The Body Reveals the Person

When JPII said “the body, in fact, and only the body, is capable of making visible what is invisible,” he was talking about the deepest truths of our humanity — and that includes sports.
Athletes know their bodies in a unique way. Every motion, every breath, every ounce of endurance expresses something interior — determination, courage, teamwork, and purpose.

When an athlete gives their all, they’re not just revealing skill. They’re revealing spirit.
In this way, the Theology of the Body transforms sports into a living prayer — a way to glorify God by using the body to express truth, beauty, and love.

Virtue in Motion

The virtues that make great athletes — discipline, perseverance, humility, teamwork — are the same virtues that form saints.
Sports become a school of virtue, where we learn to unite effort and grace. Every athlete knows what it’s like to struggle, to fail, to rise again. In those moments, we’re not just training our bodies — we’re training our souls.

When an athlete chooses integrity over ego, effort over excuses, and teamwork over pride, they’re living the Theology of the Body — because they’re using their freedom not for self-glorification, but for love.

St. Paul understood this deeply when he wrote, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run so as to win.” (1 Corinthians 9:24). The goal isn’t just victory on the field, but holiness — to “win” the crown that lasts forever.

True Confidence: Competing as a Gift

The world tells athletes that confidence comes from achievement, performance, or winning. But TOB reveals a different truth: our worth is not earned — it’s received.
Every skill, every ability, every victory is a gift meant to be given back in love.

When athletes root their confidence in their identity in who God uniquely created them to be, they compete with freedom. Mistakes don’t define them, and success doesn’t consume them. They can play for something bigger than themselves — the glory of God — and in doing so, they become fully alive.

That’s what it means to compete as a gift. To say, “Lord, this body, this breath, this game — it’s all Yours.”

Teamwork and Communion

The Theology of the Body teaches that we are made for communion — for relationships that mirror the love of the Trinity. Sports give us a chance to live that truth in real time.
When a team moves as one, when teammates sacrifice for each other, when an athlete encourages rather than criticizes — they reveal the heart of communion.

This is what it means to “play for each other” — not as a cliché, but as a lived theology. It’s learning to see your teammates as gifts, not competitors, and your opponents as people deserving respect and dignity.

Worship Through Movement

Sports can become a form of worship when we bring intention to it. Whether you’re stepping onto the field, lacing up your shoes, or taking a deep breath before competition, invite God into the moment:

“Lord, help me use my body today to glorify You.
Help me compete with integrity, lead with love,
and find joy in the gift of this game.”

When you approach your sport this way, you discover that training the body trains the soul. You learn discipline that spills into prayer, patience that flows into relationships, and gratitude that transforms ordinary moments into worship.

Theology of the Body in Action

For athletes, living out TOB means recognizing that your sport is not separate from your faith — it’s one more place where you live your faith.

  • You glorify God through how you train.

  • You reveal God through how you treat others.

  • You encounter God through how you rise after defeat.

That’s what makes sports holy. Not the scoreboard, but the surrender — using your body to make visible the invisible love of God.

So the next time you step on the field, the court, the track, or the stage — remember this:
Your body is not just an instrument for success. It’s a gift that reveals your Creator.
Play like it. Train like it. Love like it.

Because in the end, the greatest victory is not the one that happens on the field,
but the one that happens in your heart.

If you would like to learn more about how to become the athlete–the person–the God created you to be and to live that out with confidence and faith, learn more about our Faith Based Success and Performance Coaching at CatholicCounselors.com.

Burned Out for Christ? Re-order Your Priorities

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Most parishes are blessed with a handful of super-volunteers—the dependable, energetic folks who are the first to say yes when there’s a committee to lead or a project to complete. Parish staff know they can count on them. Fellow parishioners admire them. Their dedication seems unstoppable.

And yet, all that good work can have a dark side, says Dr. Mark Kolodziej, a pastoral counselor at CatholicCounselors.com. All too often, people let their ministry work crowd out other activities that ought to be a higher priority, like connecting with a spouse or taking care of themselves.

And when that happens, trouble often ensues.

Disordered Priorities

The impulse to overload our schedules with ministry and volunteer work is often motivated by a sincere desire to serve God, Kolodziej says.

While that desire to serve God is good in itself, Kolodziej says, where things get off track is when people begin thinking that such work as the most important way they serve God. Their mindset can be: If I’m not doing something for the parish (or another ministry) all the time, I must be failing God.

This mindset can lead to misplaced priorities, where the most important relationships in our lives—our spouse, children, even our relationship with God—start taking a back seat to less essential obligations. Spiritually, it can also result in scrupulosity, or the mistaken idea that we can somehow earn God’s love through our own hard work and sacrifice.

“A lot of people will join various ministries—they’re going to this meeting, they’re going to that meeting, they’re doing this and all kinds of stuff,” Kolodziej says. “And I’ll say (to clients), ‘So all of this ministry work that you’re doing is against what God wants you to do, not that he doesn’t want you to do it, but he wants you to keep your priorities straight.”

For married people, this usually means prioritizing God first, then your spouse, then your kids, then everything else—including volunteer ministry work, he says. This order of priority is inherent to the vocation of marriage; single people will have a different list of priorities, of course.

“The priority that you signed up for when you got married was your family,” he says. “You give your family your first and your best. That is doing what God wants you to do. So if you shirk that responsibility by working in church ministry or anything else—if you’re a workaholic or whatever—you’re shirking what you signed up for that you said you’re going to do.”

Another way Kolodziej sees this tendency toward disordered priorities show up in family dynamics is when children become the center of their parents’ attention, to the detriment of the marriage.

“A lot of people are saying, ‘I’m doing this for the children,’” he says. Parents will say that their kids need their time and attention.

“They do need that, but that’s not the most important thing,” he says. “The most important thing for the children, other than formation in God, is the relationship between mom and dad. That is more important to the child than (the parents) spending time with them. They want to know that mom and dad aren’t going anywhere, that mom and dad love each other.”

The health and stability of the marriage provide the foundation for everything else that goes on in the family, Kolodziej says. “And oftentimes when we have children, we forget about our spouse. Our spouse takes second place, and that is disordered.”

God Wants You to Take Care of Yourself

Another sneaky way priorities get disordered under the guise of “serving God” is when we get so busy taking care of other people, we don’t ever stop to take time for ourselves.

Kolodziej shares the example of a woman who juggled a full-time job, caregiving for elderly parents, and the demands of running a household. She was exhausted and overwhelmed but felt guilty taking time for herself. In her mind, God was calling her to practice ascetic self-sacrifice by putting others’ needs before her own. The problem was, her own needs never got met.

When Kolodziej challenged her to consider how her loved ones were experiencing her burnout, it clicked.

“You’re so burnt out that all you’re giving all these people is a shell, a pulse,” he told her. “You’re not able to do the creative, joyful, life-giving things your family needs. You need self-care in order to be able to then give other people the talents that God has given you.”

Self-care might include quiet prayer, exercise, rest, hobbies, or simply enjoying the beauty of nature. These are not indulgences; they are ways of filling the tank so you can serve others from a place of joy, not depletion.

How to Rebalance Your Priorities

Kolodziej has a few practical tips to help people get back on track with their priorities.

  1.     Learn to say “no.” It can be hard to turn down Father or church staff, but Kolodziej suggests remembering that every “yes” is a “no” to something else. Make sure that you’re saying yes to your heavenly Father before you say yes to the Father at your parish.
  2.     Learn to let go. Sometimes the difficulty isn’t saying “no” to the parish, but saying “no” to ourselves. As much as we’d like to have our hand in everything, we need to let go of the things that are less important and prioritize our time and energy for our main vocation.
  3.     Ask for help. If you’re so busy with the most basic demands of life that you don’t have time for volunteering, then it might be time to ask for help. This might involve asking your workplace for some flexibility, seeking outside help from a social service agency or your church, or asking other members of your family to pitch in more.

The bottom line: If you make sure your priorities line up with God’s priorities, a lot of other things will click into place.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your responsibilities—or unsure of how to re-balance your life in a healthier, more God-centered way—you don’t have to figure it out alone. A pastoral counselor can walk with you as you discern where to let go, where to say no, and how to embrace the joy God wants to give you. Reach out to a professional pastoral counselor who shares your faith at CatholicCounselors.com.

Fixing Relationship Troubles Isn’t All On You

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Hurt feelings over wedding invitations seemed to have ended Ruth’s 30-year friendship with another woman. Meanwhile, a simple misunderstanding had blown up Patricia’s relationship with a friend from church.

Both women desperately wanted to make their relationships whole again. But when they called in to the More2Life radio show, hosts Dr. Greg Popcak and Lisa Popcak gave them some surprising advice: restoring the relationship isn’t all on you.

‘How Can I Convince Her?’

Ruth’s situation was particularly complex. For three decades, her family and her friend’s family had gathered every summer, always including the friend’s daughter who was in a same-sex relationship. Ruth’s family had made it a priority to show love and acceptance to her friend’s daughter.

But when Ruth’s son planned his wedding, tight budget constraints meant no plus-ones for anyone—not just the friend’s daughter, but close family members, too. Despite this being clearly a financial decision affecting multiple people, Ruth’s friend interpreted it as discrimination against her daughter’s lifestyle and cut off all contact.

After a year of painful silence, Ruth’s friend had finally agreed to meet, but Ruth was anxious about the upcoming conversation. “I want to know exactly how I convince her that it had nothing to do with her daughter’s lifestyle choices,” Ruth told the Popcaks. “I’ve got family members who are in the same type of situation.”

Patricia’s story was different but equally frustrating. She had told people at church that a fellow parishioner’s uncle had died—but as it turned out, he hadn’t. Despite Patricia’s attempts to apologize and clarify the honest mistake, her friend had been angry with Patricia ever since.

“I don’t know if there’s anything that I can do to remedy this situation,” Patricia wrote in an email to More2Life. “I’ve tried to talk to her, but nothing’s changed.”

The Trap of Working Too Hard

The stories of both callers illustrate a common trap that we can fall into when misunderstandings lead to broken relationships.

“We have this tendency to think that just because someone’s angry at us, we must have done something wrong, and it’s our job to make them not be angry at us,” Dr. Popcak explained.

We often assume we need to convince the other person, justify every decision, work harder to prove our good intentions, and take responsibility for managing the other person’s emotions.

But when it comes to honest misunderstandings, we don’t have to work that hard.

“God doesn’t ask us to make every relationship in our lives work just on our own,” Dr. Popcak reminded Ruth. “We want to be around people who can be healthy around us and be healthy for us.”

Even God Deals with Rejection

Even God, who is perfect love, doesn’t force people into relationship with him, Lisa Popcak pointed out. After all, the Word became flesh, lived among us, and even died for us, and people still rejected him. God allows us our free will because he wants real, authentic relationships—not forced compliance.

We’re called to follow his example: extend the invitation to relationship and let others choose to accept it or not. We can’t expect to control every relationship outcome, no matter how perfectly we behave or how clearly we explain ourselves.

Offer Relationship, Respect Freedom

The Popcaks recommended that both Ruth and Patricia simply state the facts clearly and let the other person choose their response.

For Ruth, this meant saying something straightforward: “Look, we don’t have unlimited amounts of money, so we restricted the wedding to those people that we were closest to. Nobody got to bring a plus one. It was purely a monetary decision. I care about you and want to be your friend. If you’re open to that, wonderful—we can build our friendship. If not, it saddens me, but I’ll accept your decision.”

In Patricia’s situation, the Popcaks pointed out that her fellow parishioner failed to practice the Christian obligation of charitable interpretation. When someone hurts us, our first response should be to assume good intentions and seek clarification. That doesn’t mean ignoring offenses or bad behavior; it simply means giving the other person the benefit of the doubt that they weren’t deliberately trying to cause hurt or offense.

Patricia’s friend should have come to her and asked what was up, Dr. Popcak said. When Patricia clarified that it was all a misunderstanding, her friend should have accepted that explanation.

Patricia had fulfilled her Christian obligation by acknowledging her mistake and clarifying her intentions. Her friend’s continued anger was her friend’s choice—not Patricia’s responsibility to fix.

The Freedom of Doing Your Part

Both Ruth and Patricia had already fulfilled their Christian obligations to love and seek peace. The rest was up to their friends.

Realizing that maintaining relationships isn’t our sole responsibility brings tremendous freedom—the freedom to love without condition while maintaining healthy boundaries, to seek peace without compromising truth, and to trust God with outcomes beyond our control.

For more help with relationship problems, check out Dr. Popcak’s book, God Help Me! These People Are Driving Me Nuts! Making Peace With Difficult People. And for more one-on-one guidance, reach out to one of the pastoral counselors at CatholicCounselors.com.

Loving Difficult People: A Catholic Approach to Annoying Behavior

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Take a moment to make a mental list of people who drive you nuts: the roommate who is always badgering you to do this or that but who never pitches in herself; the coworker who overshares about her personal life; the adult sibling who won’t stop inserting his politics into your relationship; or the parish administrator whose negative assessment of every proposal is a roadblock to needed change.

How do you deal with such people, especially if you count yourself a follower of Jesus?

St. Augustine advised that we “love the sinner, hate the sin,” but in practice, many people either hate the sinner and the sin—or they love the sin in the name of loving the sinner.

These responses might be attractive due to their simplicity—but they don’t fulfill our calling as Christians, says Dr. Greg Popcak in his book, God Help Me! These People Are Driving Me Nuts. The problem is, many Christians don’t know how to love the sinner while hating the sin.

If we want to change the way we interact with difficult people, Popcak suggests, we have to start by understanding them. That doesn’t mean ignoring bad behavior—it means digging deeper to uncover the intention behind it.

Looking through a Loving Lens

Every annoying behavior, Popcak writes, is an attempt—however flawed—to meet a legitimate need or pursue a positive goal. In psychological terms, it’s called “secondary gain”: a hidden benefit someone receives from their actions, even if those actions are unhealthy or counterproductive.

For example, maybe your demanding roommate is driven by anxiety and needs things to feel “just right” to calm her inner world. Maybe your co-worker is an extrovert who needs to process the drama in her life out loud in order to make sense of it. Maybe your brother’s attempts to get you to validate his political views is all about shoring up his sense of security. And maybe the parish administrator had a bad experience in the past that has left her super cautious about change.

When we pause to consider these possibilities, our reactions to the annoying or offensive behavior shifts. Instead of retaliating or shutting down, we can choose curiosity, compassion, and even love.

From Conflict to Connection

That shift definitely does not mean we excuse bad behavior. Popcak is clear: loving someone doesn’t mean letting hurtful patterns go unchallenged. But when we understand that a person’s action might be a clumsy way of pursuing something good—like connection, respect, or affirmation—we open the door to genuine change.

Take the story of Ralph, a father whose harsh parenting methods drove his children away. Ralph believed he was doing the right thing by “toughening them up,” “preparing them for the real world.” His intentions were rooted in love, but his methods were flawed and painful. Only when someone took the time to understand why he acted the way he did—and showed him a better way—did Ralph begin to see how things might have been different.

“Understanding is merely the starting point for respectful change,” Popcak writes. “We cannot hope to create change in our relationships if people experience us as their adversaries. So to build the rapport needed for respectful change to happen, we must challenge our initial inclinations to lash out and instead seek understanding of the true intention behind another’s offensive behavior. It helps us meet others not as adversaries, but as people trying—and often failing—to get something good in the only way they know how.”

A Practical Exercise: Rewriting the Script

Take a moment to try this shift yourself. Thinking about someone whose behavior irritates you, walk through these three simple but powerful steps:

1. Name your reaction: How do you feel? Angry? Hurt? Dismissed? Misunderstood? This step is important—acknowledge your emotional truth before trying to move into understanding. Denying your feelings won’t help you respond more lovingly; naming them will.

 

2. Imagine the intention: Ask yourself, “If this person had a good reason for acting this way—even if it’s not obvious to me—what might it be?” This step is where empathy begins. Could they be overwhelmed? Feeling disrespected? Trying to regain control? Needing comfort or connection? Try to identify at least one possible positive intention, even if their method of expressing it is deeply flawed.

 

3. Choose a new response: Now, imagine responding from a place of compassion. What might you say or do differently if you believed that the other person’s behavior was actually a cry for help, a bid for love, or an attempt to feel safe or heard? Maybe instead of snapping back, you ask a curious question. Maybe instead of withdrawing, you offer support or set a firm but kind boundary. You don’t have to excuse the behavior, but you can approach it in a way that creates connection instead of conflict.

Try practicing this with small situations first—a curt text, an impatient tone, a forgotten task—and work your way up to more challenging scenarios. The more you practice, the more natural it becomes to respond with grace, understanding, and love.

Doing the Hard Work of Love

At the heart of the Christian life is the call to love others—even when they’re difficult, Popcak says. That doesn’t mean being a doormat. It means doing the hard work of trying to understand the hearts behind the actions.

As Popcak points out, sin isn’t always about malicious intent—it’s often just a misguided way of reaching for something good. And when we can see that, we’re more likely to respond in a way that actually helps others grow into the people God created them to be.

Understanding the intent behind offensive behavior is just the beginning of the process. For more advice on dealing with annoying or offensive behavior in a loving way, pick up a copy of God Help Me! These People Are Driving Me Nuts! Or, for more one-on-one help, reach out to a pastoral counselor at CatholicCounselors.com.

A Simple Ritual to End Your Workday Well

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John, the Catholic CEO of a small musical instrument company, remembers the moment he realized he needed to develop healthier boundaries between his work and his home life. His 10-year-old daughter was telling him about her day at school, but although he was looking at her and trying to listen, his mind was still preoccupied with a stressful problem at work.

Finally, his daughter called him on it. “Dad, are you even listening?” He said he was, but then couldn’t tell her what she’d just been saying.

“It was clear something had to change,” he said.

His experience isn’t uncommon. In today’s always-on culture, it’s easy to let work bleed into home life: the stress of the office lingers at the dinner table, emails pull us away from family time, and unfinished tasks whisper in the back of our minds, ruining our sleep.

Most importantly, poor work/home boundaries can impact our relationship with the people who matter most in our lives.

If these challenges are present in your own life, you might be interested in a simple yet powerful ritual developed by pastoral counselor, Grant Freeman.

The Last Hour of the Workday: Preparing for Tomorrow

One of the best ways to set yourself up for a strong start tomorrow is by finishing well today, Freeman says. He recalls an old saying from his days as a roofer: “The last five minutes takes an hour.” In other words, rushing out the door without wrapping things up properly only makes for a frustrating start the next day.

Instead, he recommends using the last hour of your workday to:

  • Clean your workspace: Put away tools, clear your inbox, organize your desk, and file papers where they belong. A tidy workspace means a smooth start in the morning.
  • Review your calendar: Take an honest look at your schedule and adjust as needed. Acknowledge where you are instead of where you wish you were.
  • Plan your first tasks for tomorrow: Identify the top priorities for the next morning. What emails need to be sent? What phone calls should be made? Writing these down now clears your mind for the evening ahead.
  • Count the wins: Even on difficult days, find something to celebrate. Did you complete a tough task? Help a coworker? Simply making it to the end of a hard day is a victory.

Ending the day in this calm, ordered way not only sets you up for a great start tomorrow, but will help you be a more peaceful presence with your family.

The Transition Home: Reclaiming Your Role

Once the workday is closed, it’s time to shift into a different mindset—one of presence, love, and service to your family. Freeman suggests several ways to make this transition intentional:

  • Change your clothes: Physically changing out of your work attire and into comfortable home clothes is a simple but effective way to signal a shift in roles.
  • Wash your hands and face: This small act can serve as a moment to pause, reset, and leave behind the stress of the day.
  • Say a short prayer: Taking a moment to center yourself spiritually can help you step into your home life with a heart ready to serve.

Your prayer can be from the heart; it doesn’t need to be complicated. However, Freeman suggests praying as you change your clothes and wash your face, using words similar to the following:

  1. As you wash your hands and face, pray: “Give strength and gentleness to my hands, Lord, to bear the responsibility of my family and bring Your loving touch to them. May I look upon them with love, so that they may see Your face.”
  2. As you change your shirt, pray: “Lord, shield my heart to fend off all the assaults of the devil. O Lord, You have said, ‘My yoke is sweet and My burden light.’ Grant that I may carry it in a way that gives You glory and brings the best out of my family.”
  3. As you change your pants and put on your shoes, pray: “Lord, let me remember that I stand created in Your image and likeness, in true righteousness and holiness. May I walk in spirit and in truth.”

By taking a few moments to close the workday with intention and prepare for family life with presence, you can bring greater peace, joy, and love into your home. Your work is important, but ultimately, it is for the good of those you love. This simple ritual helps you show up fully for them—ready to listen, engage, and lead with love.

If you’d like to explore this or other areas of stress in your life, reach out to Grant Freeman or any of the pastoral counselors at CatholicCounselors.com.

Baby Steps – Guest Post by Judi Phillips, Pastoral Counselor at CatholicCounselors.com

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Guest Post by Judi Phillips, Pastoral Counselor at CatholicCounselors.com

Often, in the course of my daily professional work, I find that clients are so focused on the ‘big picture,’ that they can become easily overwhelmed, frozen, and find themselves struggling to do anything at all. This often leads to internal self-talk that further sabotages their efforts at moving forward. Statements such as, “This is all too much,” “I always end up like this,” “I don’t know where to begin,” “How am I ever going to get any of this done,” along with any other similar form of self talk that is indicative of believing one’s self to be powerless.

We have a tendency, in our humanity, to doubt that we can accomplish what needs to be accomplished. We focus on ‘all there is to do,’ and we lose sight of the fact that there is always something we can do. However, we won’t be able to do a small thing if we are focusing on everything or if we are focusing only on the big picture. We need to break down, whatever it is that we are facing, into smaller segments, smaller ‘bites’ so to speak. I often say to my clients, “Does a person get from the base of Mt. Everest in a giant step? No! It’s one small step and then the next, and the next…” This is the very way that we need to address any problem we may face in daily life.

To compound this challenge, there is a rampant belief system in our culture, the “all or nothing” belief of I either have to do ‘all of it the right way and perfectly,’ or I ‘can’t do anything.’ This often leads to the continuous cycle of starting and expecting perfection, which is unrealistic, or stopping and not doing anything.

God created us to have the ability to be empowered. We know this because of the way our brain is created. There is a part of our brain dedicated to being aware of and processing emotions and a part of our brain dedicated to logic, reasoning, and cognitive processing. Using both parts of our brain, we can determine a way forward, which is God’s desire for us, to know that we have the potential to always take a step forward. Essentially, we are empowered in the ways God intends when we operate from the place that ‘there is always something I can do’ no matter how small it might be. 

So, the next time you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or frozen, remember…”There is always something I can do!” Then ask yourself, “What is one small step I can take to begin helping myself to address this issue?” You’ll find it is a small thing that has a HUGE payoff!

If you would like more support on this topic or another area of your life, schedule an appointment with Judi Phillips (or any of our Pastoral Counselors) at CatholicCounselors.com!