The Blueprint for Joy: Lessons from St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body

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The Theology of the Body reminds us that we were created for joy. St. John Paul II taught that God designed our bodies—and our very humanity—to reveal His love. When we live according to that design, joy naturally flows from our hearts. But it’s important to understand that joy and happiness, while related, aren’t the same thing.

Happiness is a feeling. It depends on circumstances—on whether life is comfortable or things seem to be going our way. It’s that temporary state of satisfaction that says, “Things feel good right now.” Joy, on the other hand, is something deeper and more enduring. It’s a Fruit of the Spirit that gives us the inner assurance that, no matter what is happening, God is present and working for our good. As the Christian mystic Julian of Norwich beautifully wrote, “All shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.”

Dr. Greg explains it this way: “Happiness depends on what’s happening to us. Joy depends on what’s happening in us. Joy is rooted in knowing that, in good times and bad, God is working for our good.” The more we can look at our life and say, “I see what God’s brought me out of. I see where God’s brought me now, and I see what God is bringing me next,” the more joyful we become.
So how do we cultivate that kind of joy—the kind that lasts through good times and bad? Theology of the Body offers a roadmap: a life rooted in meaningfulness, intimacy, and virtue.

Meaningfulness—what St. John Paul called “the law of the gift”—is the commitment to use everything we’ve been given to make a positive difference in our circumstances and in the lives of those around us. In Gaudium et Spes, he wrote that “man… cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself.” In other words, when we stop living just for comfort and start living for love, joy takes root.

Intimacy is about building what John Paul described as a “community of love.” It means cooperating with God’s grace to make all our relationships healthy, honest, and holy—from our marriages and families to our friendships and workplaces. Joy grows wherever genuine connection and self-giving love flourish.

Finally, virtue is our commitment to use everything that happens to us—good and bad—as an opportunity to become the whole, healed, godly, grace-filled person God sees when He looks at us. St. John Paul called virtue “the power to love rightly.” It’s what enables us to meet every challenge with the confidence that God’s grace can transform it into an opportunity for growth.
“Joy,” Dr. Greg says, “isn’t something we chase directly. It’s the natural result of daily asking, ‘Lord, how are you calling me to pursue meaningfulness, intimacy, and virtue right now?’” That simple question allows us to discover the divine blueprint for joy that God has written into every human heart.

Modern research beautifully supports this Catholic vision of joy. A Harvard study on adult development found that strong, loving relationships—not wealth or success—are the single greatest predictor of long-term happiness and joy. Similarly, a Pew Research report shows that people who describe their lives as “meaningful” through faith and service score far higher on emotional well-being than those focused primarily on pleasure. And a Psychology Today feature notes that cultivating gratitude and purpose literally rewires our brains, strengthening the neural pathways that sustain joy even in hardship.

The world tells us to chase happiness. The Gospel—and the Theology of the Body—invite us to live for joy: a joy that endures, that deepens with love, and that reflects the very life of God within us.

When we root our days in meaningfulness, intimacy, and virtue, we don’t just find fleeting pleasure. We discover the steady, unshakable joy of knowing that, truly, “All shall be well.”

If you would like to discover more meaningfulness, intimacy, and virtue in your life and relationships, reach out to a Pastoral Counselor today at CatholicCounselors.com.

From Struggle to Strength: Letting ‘Glimmers of God’ Light the Way

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Ever had one of those mornings when nothing goes right? Your coffee spills, your kids are squabbling before breakfast, and your dog decides the rug looks better with a new chew-hole design. Then, you spend ten minutes looking for your keys and end up being late for your appointment. It’s the sort of start that could foul anyone’s outlook for the rest of the day.

But maybe it doesn’t even take that much to put you in a negative mood. Maybe you have a more “melancholic” personality, or you struggle with depression.

Whatever the cause, having a negative mindset never makes the day go better; in fact, it’s more likely to make things worse.

So, how do you break out of that negative mindset so you can navigate the day’s challenges with peace—and even a touch of joy?

Judi Phillips, a pastoral counselor with the Pastoral Solutions Institute, suggests what she calls “glimmers” as one antidote for life’s daily stresses.

Wait, What Exactly Is a Glimmer?

Let’s revisit the rough morning that we just described. If you look a little closer, you might just spot some “glimmers of goodness”: one of those squabbling kids spontaneously gives you the tightest hug; the dog (the mischievous rug designer), looks up at you with unconditional love. Outside, the sky is an amazing shade of blue, a welcome relief after a week of overcast skies.

These are glimmers—simple moments of goodness that, once you notice them, have the power to shift your mood from gloomy to grateful.

“The idea is that when we’re purposeful and intentional in looking for those glimmers, we begin to have a shift in our mindset,” Phillips says. “We begin to experience life in a more joyful way than if we’re just stuck in the negative, or if we’re stuck in the worries of things.”

Rewiring Your Brain’s Negativity Bias

One reason it can feel easier to focus on the negative is that our brains come hardwired to notice what’s wrong and to highlight bad experiences. That trait helped humans avoid predators and other threats for hundreds of thousands of years. But today, rather than keeping us alive, this negativity bias tends to make us stressed, anxious, and frankly, pretty cranky.

But neuroscience research shows that practicing gratitude literally reprograms our brains. “Anxiety can’t coexist with gratitude,” Phillips says. “When we’re intentionally grateful, our brain shifts its focus and literally starts seeing life through a new lens.”

At the biological level, looking for these “glimmers of goodness” gradually strengthens our brain’s “glimmer-spotting” neural pathways so that, eventually, this more positive outlook becomes a habit.

The beauty of glimmers is that they don’t have to be major wins. “For someone wrestling with clinical depression, just getting out of bed or brushing their teeth can be a genuine glimmer,” Phillips notes. It’s these tiny celebrations that spark a more positive outlook, step by incremental step.

Glimmers of God’s Presence

There is a spiritual dimension at work in this practice, too, Phillips says, in that these glimmers connect us to God.

“It can help us to recognize God’s presence with us, because we know that God is the one who ensures any good thing,” Phillips says. “And so anytime we’re experiencing goodness, that is evidence of God being there with us.”

Connecting with God in these little ways throughout the day can provide us with the grace we need to overcome nearly any challenge. Just consider the various heroes of the Nazi concentration camps: Venerable Angela Maria Autsch, known as the “Angel of Auschwitz,” uplifted fellow prisoners with her humor and kindness. Blessed Franciszek Dachtera maintained such a cheerful demeanor despite being subjected to tortuous medical experiments, other prisoners nicknamed him “Cherubnik.” Similarly, Venerable Emil J. Kapaun ministered to his fellow prisoners of war in North Korea with a sense of humor.

These people were able to rise above really awful circumstances not on their own, but because of their deep relationship with God—and their ability to recognize God present and working even amid great evil. Of course this does not mean that we “should just be happy” in the midst of difficulty, but recognizing God in our situation helps us to navigate the difficulty and take healthy action in a more peaceful and effective way. 

Getting Started Spotting Glimmers

So, these glimmers sound great—but how do you get started, especially if your default mindset tends to be negative?

Phillips recommends making it a daily habit to write down a list of glimmers from the day. Choose a time that is connected with some other habit: eating a meal, brushing your teeth, getting ready for bed.

“Keep a notebook by your bed, or near your toothbrush,” she suggests. “Make it as easy as possible.”

Do this at least once a day—or more often, if you can.

At first, you might struggle to come up with even a handful of glimmers in a day. Or you might find yourself repeatedly thankful for coffee, chocolate, or Netflix (no judgment). But Phillips challenges clients to be specific and varied. If you thanked God for coffee yesterday, try something new today—maybe the quirky barista who made your morning brighter.

You can put a fun twist on this assignment by writing each day’s glimmers on colorful Post-it Notes that you then post on a door, refrigerator, or somewhere else you’ll see them regularly.

A Life-Changing Habit

Phillips has seen this practice bring about dramatic change in the lives of her clients.

“It’s incredible,” she says. “It’s like a night and day difference. Those who begin to practice it and are faithful to it, they just report being more happy in their lives, they report a greater awareness of God being with them and having a sense of his presence with them day in and day out. 

“Also, even if they hit a place where they’re having difficulty…they’re much better able to manage it without falling in a ditch, so to speak, where they go back down in that really dark place. So there’s a huge payoff to practicing it.”

And the best part? The more you practice, the easier it gets. “After a few months, people go from naming just one or two glimmers a day to noticing dozens,” she adds.

So here’s your mission: tonight, before bed—or tomorrow morning while brushing your teeth—take two minutes to jot down at least three glimmers from the past 24 hours. No repeats! It could just change your life.

And if you find yourself needing a little extra help along the way—especially if you’re dealing with persistent negativity, anxiety, or depression—reach out to Judi Phillips and or any of our pastoral counselors at CatholicCounselors.com.

Because, really, life is way too short to miss out on those tiny, wonderful glimmers of joy.

Feeling Overwhelmed? Try This 3-Part Journaling Exercise

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In a previous post, we discussed types of self-talk that only make stress and anxiety worse without addressing the root causes. (See “10 Ways of Thinking That Sabotage Your Life.”) Now, let’s look at one strategy for breaking the habit of unhelpful self-talk so that we can practice ways of thinking that actually reduce stress and anxiety.

 

Start by Identifying Old, Unhelpful Scripts

First, a quick review. “Self-talk” is the story we tell ourselves to make sense of our experiences. Unhelpful or harmful self-talk is often a “script” rooted in memories of experiences from our past. When we encounter a similar type of experience, our unconscious brain pulls out the old script and runs through it as a way of making sense of the new situation.

The problem is that the old script doesn’t give us a good handle on the new situation. The old script is what cognitive behavioral therapists call “cognitive distortions,” so named because they distort our perception of reality.

Dr. Greg Popcak explains how to identify the ten most common types of unhelpful self-talk in his book, God Help Me! The Stress is Driving Me Crazy! A few examples include mind-reading (assuming you know what others are thinking without having sufficient evidence), catastrophizing (expecting the worst-case scenario to happen and seeing it as inevitable), and polarized thinking (viewing situations, people, or yourself in extreme, all-or-nothing terms, without recognizing any middle ground).

But once you’ve identified an old script that’s keeping you from achieving a happier, healthier life, what do you do next?

 

A Journaling Exercise for Rewriting Old Scripts

One option is a three-step journaling exercise that helps you take apart the old script and rewrite a more helpful one. Here’s a summary of the process as Dr. Popcak explains it in God Help Me! The Stress is Driving Me Crazy!

 

1. Vent about the stressful situation 

Start by writing a single sentence that describes what happened. For example:

I applied for this job I really wanted two weeks ago, and I still haven’t heard back.

Keep it pretty straight-forward, focusing on the bare facts of whatever is causing you stress and anxiety.

Next, vent! Write down what this event means to you. Why is it stressing you out? For example:

I applied for this job I really wanted two weeks ago, and I still haven’t heard back. This is the fifth job I’ve applied for where they never even called to set up an interview. I thought I was a perfect fit, but they obviously don’t think so. I feel worthless, like a complete failure.

 

2. Identify the distortions

 Next, re-read what you wrote as if it were written by a friend; your job is to sort through each statement and separate facts from distortions. Make notes in the margins classifying each statement. For example:

I applied for this job I really wanted two weeks ago, and I still haven’t heard back. (That’s a fact.) This is the fifth job I’ve applied for where they never even called to set up an interview. (Also a fact.) I thought I was a perfect fit, but they obviously don’t think so. (Distortion: mind-reading,) I feel worthless, like a complete failure. (Distortion: polarized thinking, i.e., all-or-nothing, black-and-white thinking.)

 

3. Write yourself a helpful letter

Finally, continuing in your role as a helpful friend, write yourself a letter that responds to the facts of the situation in a way that grounds you in reality, puts things in perspective, and offers practical steps that might actually help address the situation. Here’s an example:

Dear friend,

I know job hunting can be discouraging and demoralizing. But don’t make it harder than it is by listening to negative thoughts grounded in faulty thinking! The reality is, there are many possible reasons why these employers didn’t get back to you, including reasons that have nothing to do with you—so stop “mind reading!” And the fact that you didn’t get these jobs doesn’t make you a “failure”; it means you didn’t get those jobs, and that’s it. Plenty of successful people experienced way more rejection before finding success.

Here are three things you can do. First, take some time to pray, and just rest in the assurance of God’s care for you. Second, get some professional help with your job search process: hire a job coach, or take an online course to spruce up your resume. Third, ask around about a Christian job support group you could join, or start one yourself. Getting some friends to support you on the journey will help you keep going.

As you write this letter to yourself, avoid any “empty talk”: platitudes, pep talks, or encouragement that isn’t backed up by evidence. Focus on putting the facts of your situation in a more realistic light and naming practical things you can do to move forward.

This exercise can help you get on top of your stress and anxiety, but for a more comprehensive, one-on-one approach that takes your faith into account, reach out to Dr. Popcak and the therapists at CatholicCounselors.com.

10 Ways of Thinking That Sabotage Your Life

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Some ways of thinking help us lead to a healthier, holier, happier life. Other ways of thinking aren’t helpful at all, leading us to powerlessness, isolation, and self-indulgence.

This was one of the key insights of the great spiritual master St. Ignatius of Loyola, who realized that some thoughts (or “movements of the soul”) drew him closer to God and his own well-being, while others led him away from those things.

More than five hundred years later, a similar insight among psychologists would give birth to cognitive behavioral therapy, a form of psychotherapy that has proven effective for treating anxiety and depression.

As Dr. Greg Popcak points out in his book Unworried: A Life without Anxiety, the two frameworks—one spiritual and one more science-based—can both help us identify whether our “self-talk” (the little stories we tell ourselves to make sense of our experience) are healthy, godly, and productive. Identifying unhelpful self-talk can help us take steps to change the unconscious “scripts” that are sabotaging our lives.

Dr. Popcak goes into more detail about St. Ignatius’s approach to discerning helpful and unhelpful thoughts in Unworried, but for now, let’s turn to some of the most common types of unhelpful self-talk identified by cognitive behavioral therapists.

 

The Top Ten Types of Unhelpful “Self-Talk”

The following list of “cognitive distortions” (so-called because they distort our perception of reality) is taken from chapter 2 of Dr. Popcak’s book, God Help Me! The Stress is Driving Me Crazy!

 1. Mind Reading

Mind reading involves assuming you know what others are thinking without having sufficient evidence.

Example: You’re in a meeting and your boss looks at you briefly with a stern face. You immediately think, “My boss is disappointed with my work,” without any concrete evidence or feedback to support this assumption.

2. Filtering

Filtering involves focusing exclusively on the negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive.

Example: You receive feedback on a project. Despite receiving nine positive comments and one slightly critical one, you focus solely on the criticism, ignoring all the positive feedback.

3. Magnification

Magnification is exaggerating the importance or severity of events, often perceiving them as more disastrous than they are.

Example: You make a minor mistake in your report and think, “This is a disaster! It’s going to ruin my entire career,” amplifying the significance of the error.

4. Catastrophizing

Catastrophizing involves expecting the worst-case scenario to happen and seeing it as an inevitable outcome.

Example: You feel a mild pain in your back and immediately think, “What if it’s a serious illness? I might end up bedridden and unable to work.”

5. Emotional Reasoning

When you believe that what you feel must be true, even if there is no factual evidence to support it, you’re engaged in emotional reasoning.

Example: You feel anxious about flying and conclude, “Because I feel scared, flying must be a very dangerous way to travel,” even though statistics show it’s quite safe.

6. Polarized Thinking

Polarized thinking involves viewing situations, people, or self in extreme, all-or-nothing terms, without recognizing any middle ground.

Example: You don’t get the promotion you wanted and think, “If I’m not a complete success, I’m a total failure,” seeing things in black-and-white terms.

8. Fallacy of Internal Control

The fallacy of internal control leads you to believe that you are responsible for events and feelings that are actually outside your control.

Example: Your friend is in a bad mood and you think, “It must be because of something I did,” assuming you have more control over others’ emotions than you actually do.

8. Personalizing

Personalizing involves attributing external events or others’ behaviors to yourself, often blaming yourself for things you are not responsible for.

Example: Your spouse is short-tempered one evening and you immediately think, “They must be upset with me,” taking their mood as a reflection of your actions or worth.

9. The ‘Shoulds’

The ‘Shoulds’ involve imposing rigid rules on yourself or others about how people should behave, leading to guilt and frustration when these expectations are not met.

Example: You tell yourself, “I should always be working and productive,” and feel guilty whenever you take time for leisure, imposing rigid rules on yourself.

10. The Fallacy of Change

The fallacy of change means believing that your happiness depends on changing others to meet your expectations or desires.

Example: You believe, “If I can make my partner more outgoing, we’ll be happier,” thinking that changing someone else is the key to your happiness.

 

Changing Unhelpful Self-Talk

These distorted ways of thinking have real consequences for our life, leaving us poorly equipped to deal with things the way they really are. Moreover, a number of studies show that cognitive distortions lead to poor mental health and poor relationship satisfaction.

The good news is that once we recognize our unhelpful self-talk, we can change it—although that can be challenging, given that these self-sabotaging scripts are often deeply rooted in our subconscious brain.

We’ll look at some steps to help us rewrite those scripts in a future post, but if you can’t wait, contact a Catholic therapist at CatholicCounselors.com.

Got the Midwinter Blues? It’s Okay to Take Care of Yourself

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Midwinter can be tough on even the sunniest, most upbeat people. The Christmas lights are gone, it’s cold, it’s dark, and once-pristine snow is getting gray and slushy…kind of like a lot of our moods.

That’s doubly true if you’re at home caring for toddlers and preschoolers. The sheer effort required to get out with the kids (boots, hats, gloves) may mean you’re not getting out as much.

During a recent video chat, Dr. Greg and Lisa Popcak helped parents in the CatholicHÔM community brainstorm strategies for getting through the winter blues. Their advice? Give yourself a break!

Take a Break from the “Shoulds”

Before the advent of electricity, the dark days of winter were traditionally a time when life slowed down. The lack of daylight forced people to work less and rest more.

You should feel free to embrace that vibe on days when you’re feeling especially “low energy,” Lisa Popcak told parents.

“It’s okay to take care of ourselves as if we were down with the flu,” said Popcak, co-host of More2Life Radio and co-author of Parenting Your Kids with Grace. “This is a day for canned soup and grilled cheese sandwiches! Everything doesn’t need to be ‘on’ all the time.”

All of us can fall victim to a case of the “shoulds” now and then: I should be cleaning the house, I should be doing more at work, I should be volunteering more at school. Stay-at-home parents can be especially prone to the “shoulds,” often out of a felt need to prove they’re being “productive” by the standards of the marketplace.

But Catholic theology clearly prioritizes being over doing. Our worth isn’t measured by our economic output. Sometimes, the best thing to do—for you and the people you interact with—is to take a break.

One creative mother gave herself a break from her active kids by inventing a game she called “What’s on My Butt?” While she lay down on the couch, her kids placed various objects on her bottom, and she had to guess what they were. She got a break, and her kids were entertained.

“It’s not about the doing of things, it’s the being together and making a connection that matters,” Dr. Popcak affirmed.

 

Ask for What You Need

Don’t be afraid to ask your family for what you need to make it through the day.

Maybe due to the example of idealized television families, many of us seem to think that the people closest to us ought to “just know” what we need, Lisa Popcak said. But expecting our loved ones to be mind readers just isn’t realistic.

Be explicit in naming exactly what would help you: “I really need a half-hour break after lunch.” “Could you help me with…?” “It would mean a lot to me if we could spend an hour together this evening.”

You might be pleasantly surprised at how willing your family is to help you out. Even the littlest children will often cooperate with a request that is worded in a way they can understand.

 

Give Your Body a Break, Too

Catholic theologians have long insisted that our bodies are more than “accessories” to our souls (see Catechism of the Catholic Church #364–365). More recently, brain researchers have increasingly shown how much influence the body has on the state of our minds.

If you’re struggling with the midwinter blues, then, be sure that you’re caring for your body in a way that will boost your mood. As Dr. Popcak writes in Unworried: A Life without Anxiety, three practices are especially important to maintaining our ability to handle external stressors. Those three practices are:

  • Sleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, most people need between seven to nine hours of good sleep every night in order to function well. Besides healing and recharging the body, your brain does a lot of its most important “maintenance work” during deep sleep. No wonder it’s so critical for mental health!
  • Exercise. Exercise, especially the type that raises your heart rate and leaves you a little short of breath, releases endorphins (natural mood-boosters) and helps stimulate the growth of the hippocampus—the part of the brain that regulates emotion.
  • Good nutrition. What we eat affects how we feel, physically and mentally. Foods rich in magnesium, zinc, probiotics, and B vitamins all have been shown to have a significant positive effect on our mood. In addition, certain nutritional supplements have also been shown to have as much of a positive impact on mood as some prescription medications.

See chapter 6 of Unworried for details on all of these practices.

 

Tap into the Power of Prayer

Prayer is often one of the first things to go when we’re feeling down, which is unfortunate, given how ready God is to help us.

Fortunately, your prayer doesn’t need to be complicated; God responds generously to the simplest, most forthright prayers: “Lord, it’s another cold, gray day. The kids are climbing the walls, the house is a mess, and I’m really struggling. But I trust in your love for me; please give me whatever I need to abide in your love today.”

 

So, to review: Give yourself a break from the “shoulds.” Ask for what you need. Take care of your body. Ask God to supply the grace you need to make it through the day.

These four strategies should be enough to beat your run-of-the-mill winter blues. If you’re struggling with a more serious case of depression or anxiety, though, don’t hesitate to reach out for one-on-one help from a licensed therapist at CatholicCounselors.com.

Getting Over The Grumpies—The Secret Antidote for Shifting Your Mood

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When we’re feeling frustrated, burnt out, or just downright grumpy, it can be easy to get stuck in those feelings. Maybe because it’s comfortable, maybe because we’re trying to figure out what’s wrong, or maybe because we just don’t know how to overcome our negative mood. 

A recent study out of the University of Texas explored the effects of expressing gratitude on the gratitude giver and receiver. The study revealed that more often than not people hold back from offering thanks to others because they either feel uncomfortable doing so, or believe that the person receiving their gratitude will feel awkward. The results of the study indicated however, that expressing gratitude, even in the simplest ways, can have a big impact on how the giver and receiver feel about themselves, each other, and their overall mood. 

The Theology of the Body reminds us that God created us to be a gift to each other. When you receive a gift, it is only appropriate to say, “Thank you.” Christians are called to love one another, and one of the most important ways we can love each other is by reminding each person in our lives how important, how treasured, and how special they are to us. Sometimes we can feel foolish telling other people how much they mean to us, but today, perhaps sharing our gratitude for one another can be one small way we can fulfill St. Paul’s admonition in 1 Cor 4:10 to be “fools for Christ.” Take a moment to find some small way to let the people God has brought into your life how grateful you are to them. Tell your spouse, your kids, your family, friends and co-workers how much you appreciate them, and don’t forget to say “thank you” even for the little things that others do for you. It’s a simple way you can be God’s blessing to others and remind others of what a blessing they are to you.

Here are three ways to boost your mood (and another’s mood) through gratitude:

1. Recognize the Gift–Don’t fall into the trap of assuming that you shouldn’t say “thank you” to someone who is “just doing their job” or “just doing what they are supposed to do.”  There are lots of people who don’t do their jobs and fail to do what they should. The fact is, it takes effort to try to do what’s right and fulfill our responsibilities to one another, and it’s an effort that deserves to be recognized. In a world that sees people as objects and takes everyone for granted, we Christians have a special duty to remind each other, and the world, how important each and every person is in the eyes of God and how precious a gift it is when someone does something–anything–to make our lives a little easier or more pleasant. Be that person who recognizes the gifts others give you today. Acknowledge everything someone does for you today with a simple “thank you” and a smile.

2. Celebrate the People In Your Life–Is there someone you especially appreciate? Someone who makes a difference in your life just by being who they are?  When was the last time you told them how important they are to you?  Today, take a minute to actually hand write a short note to tell them how much they mean to you. You might thank them for something specific they did, or for how they make you feel, or just thank them for being in your life. Let them know what a gift they are to you and how you wouldn’t be the same without them. Then drop it in the mail or leave it someplace where they can be surprised to find it later on. It doesn’t take much effort, but you’d be surprised by how much of a difference this little effort can make.

3. Get Happy–Research shows that people who make an effort to practice simple gratitude habits can increase their happiness set point by up to 30%. Your happiness set point is the natural level of happiness you experience in your everyday life and it is remarkably stable. Whether people are surprised by good things or frustrated by unpleasant events, they tend to return to their happiness set point fairly shortly thereafter. But simple acts of gratitude like keeping a gratitude journal, saying “thank you” to others, and finding simple ways to acknowledge how much the people in your life mean to you have been shown to significantly increase a person’s happiness set point, increasing their overall sense of wellbeing and joy.  It turns out, the best way to be a happier person is to remind yourself to express thanks for all the little blessings you’ve been given and all the people who bless your life everyday.

For more ways to live an abundant life, check out our resources at CatholicCounselors.com

Quick links and resources:

Broken Gods—Hope, Healing, and The Seven Longings of The Human Heart

Praying For (and With) Your Spouse

For Better…Forever—The Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage